Between The Bars, or, an essay about shelter cats
As I mentioned at the beginning of the week, I've written for the Southern Minn Scene magazine since 2013. Throughout my tenure, outside of the regular monthly column I contributed, I occasionally wrote a feature story. The minor viral sensation, "We're So Small Compared to Our Hearts" was one of those.
The July issue of the magazine is my final issue. It also happened to be animal/pet themed, so I am happy to be going out on a somewhat positive note.
I pitched this story to my editor a long time ago, and he agreed to it. But then he got laid off in April. And I kind of had to re-confirm that I could write it and they'd publish it.
It, like my final "Bearded Life" column, wound up online last week. Whomever is in charge of the Scene's website now did go back through and add photos, however, not the photos I submitted to run with the piece. If you feel like giving them click throughs, click here. But if you just want to read all 2,500 words, just read on below.
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Between The Bars
My wife tells me I need to get out of the house more.
Even though I am working two jobs, seven days a week, and
writing material for both my own music blog as well as various other
publications—on top of doing chores like the laundry, grocery shopping, and the
dishes—somehow, somehow, there are
still small parts of the day where I find I have a few moments to myself, and
in those moments, I am driving our rabbit, Annabell, mad.
Contrary to what you may believe, rabbits are not nocturnal;
they are crepuscular—meaning Annabell is most active in the morning, and in the
evening. She sleeps most of the day, and like most people who sleep, she
prefers it to be quiet, and becomes visibly irritated when I am home during the
day, prattling around, saying “Sorry Annabell!” every time I make a little too
loud of a noise.
My wife tells me I need to get out of the house more, so she
suggests volunteering.
To an incredibly selfish individual like myself, that’s not
a super appealing proposition until she suggests I look into doing something at
Prairie’s Edge Humane Society.
I email Kathy Jasnoch, the director of Prairie’s Edge, to
let her know my situation, my availability, and I ask if there are volunteer
opportunities. I presume that I’ll be stuffing envelopes for a fundraising
letter, or some other kind of administrative task. Much to my surprise, when
she responds, she tells me she has just the thing for me.
I’ll be socializing shelter cats.
* * *
The first thing you notice is the smell.
It’s kind of hard not to. It’s early in the morning still, roughly
four hours before Prairie’s Edge is actually open to the public, so there is
still time—and as the day unfolds, various staff come in and slowly begin the
task of cleaning all of the litter pans, bedding, and cat kennels, along with
the carpeting in the lobby area.
By 1 p.m., things are probably as clean as they are going to
be for the day, and the doors open.
The next thing you notice are the cats themselves.
It’s kind of hard not to. At any given time, there are
probably around 30 or more of them housed at Prairie’s Edge, and, much like the
odor that hits your nose after opening the door, the sheer amount of cats
living at the shelter can be overwhelming.
The cats living in enclosures located in the lobby are let
out first for the day and they waste no time scurrying around—prancing back and
forth, getting into things they aren’t supposed to, roughhousing, meowing for
your attention, et. al.
Then, later, as the shelter continues to be cleaned, the
cats stationed in the ‘cat colony’ are let out in groups.
Since it’s morning, all of the cats are hungry, and no
matter how quickly breakfast is served, it’s not fast enough. The cats that
have not been let out yet for the morning continue to meow loudly until they
get what they want—food, to be let out to roam around, fresh bedding, or all of
the above.
Even after volunteering once a week for a number of months,
the cacophony of desperate meows is still difficult for me to hear; everyone
just sounds so upset. It’s even more difficult if you walk by the kennel door
of a cat that hasn’t been tended to yet—if it’s a cat that is new to life at
Prairie’s Edge, they may be cowering under their blanket. However, if it’s an
old timer, they will stop at nothing to get your attention, and you will see a
number of paws sticking out from between the bars, batting at you.
For me, the image is never not heartbreaking.
* * *
Kathy Jasnoch has been involved with Prairie’s Edge Humane
Society in an official capacity since 2005, when she was asked to join the
Board of Directors. In 2011, she became the Executive Director of the
organization.
She tells me that her work with PEHS is a big part of her
life.
“I can’t imagine not doing this,” she says. “It’s more than
just a job.”
It isn’t just Jasnoch that feels that way—that’s apparent.
This is the kind of job where you wind up taking work home with you; but
instead of a presentation for the “big account” that you stay up late working
on, it’s another life you bring into your home.
Staff will often temporarily foster cats that aren’t doing
well in the shelter, like a morbidly obese cat that just wants to keep to
herself, or a single mother with a handful of newborn kittens.
The same goes for the adoptable dogs as well—they are all
placed in foster care until the right family comes along. However, there is a
risk when it comes to staff, or other dedicated volunteers fostering animals.
They can wind up being what is commonly called “foster failures,” and this is
how the animal winds up with a new, permanent home.
* * *
Cats are the final companion animals I make peace with.
I used to be afraid of dogs; like, really afraid. But thanks
to time spent with friends who have dogs, my fear slowly went away.
Both my wife and I are horribly allergic to cats. We always
have been, and nearly ever cat I’ve ever met seems to know it. When I am in a
home with cats, they come right for me, walking up to where I am sitting, slithering
past my legs, rubbing their body up against my pants as if to say, “THERE IS
NOWHERE TO RUN.”
Loading up on allergy medication and nasal sprays is one
thing, but it took time for me to comprehend that cats, like all animals, just
want affection.
Cats are just different; different than dogs, and different
than rabbits. And I think along with my aversion of cats, primarily due to my
allergies, came a misunderstanding, something that volunteering at the humane
society eradicated almost immediately.
There is no time for hesitation, or worry about allergies,
or thinking about your previous misconceptions when you are reaching into a cat
kennel, and the cat is desperately clinging to the side because it is afraid
and doesn’t want to be picked up.
There is no room for misunderstanding when a cat greets you
at the door by starting to climb up your pant leg, or climbs onto your
shoulder.
There is no place for misunderstanding when a paw is
reaching out from between the kennel bars, and you hang onto it with your hand,
as if to say, “I’m sorry you are here.”
* * *
I take to a small black cat named Filbert almost
immediately. The first few times I visit with him, he is afraid, but calms down
when I sit down with him in the acquaintance room. After a while, the staff
comments that he is noticeably less skittish, and this apparently helps him get
adopted.
Initially, I am sad that my first “favorite” is gone, but I
shouldn’t be. I should be happy that Filbert has found a forever home, and I
am. But I miss him.
Later, I take to other cats—all of whom also get adopted out
as well, like Filbert’s roommate Alexander, who is just as skittish and is
hesitant to open up; or Rocky, a young cat who arrived at Prairie’s Edge in
poor health. He’s feeling better now, and he’s taken to pawing at my beard and
giving me kisses on the nose; then there’s Edgar, an older cat, big and orange,
who enjoys having his face patted. When I sit with Edgar in the acquaintance
room, he paces and stalks around—obviously weary of being cooped up in a kennel
for most of the day.
Many of the other cats feel the same way he does.
* * *
“Life happens.”
That is the way Jasnoch explains how a number of animals end
up in the care of Prairie’s Edge.
“Circumstances change, and even if you are willing and able
to make that commitment (to the animal), and something else prevents you from
fulfilling it—that’s why we are here,” she tells me. “However, most of the
animals that come to us are in need of care because their owners did not
understand the responsibility they were taking on. If more people did their
homework—there would be fewer needy animals.”
Some of the cats that I visit with have outlived their
elderly caregivers; in some cases, they’ve outlived multiple caregivers.
Some cats are strays that get picked up by local law
enforcement, or are found by a concerned citizen and turned in.
More heartbreaking than the animal who is surrendered is the
PEHS alumnus—like Edgar, for example—who thought they found a forever home, but
“life happened,” and the animal is returned years later, waiting for another
chance.
* * *
I take a lot of photos of myself uncomfortably holding onto
the shelter cats while I’m volunteering. The ones that turn out well I share on
social media—people like cat photos, I am told.
When I tell people that I volunteer to do this, they
automatically say, “That’s awesome.” It is fun, sure, but it isn’t easy. It’s
incredibly difficult sitting with an animal that is skittish or downright
frightened, attempting to earn their trust; it’s even harder to pick them up
and place them back into their kennel when your time with them is over, with
the hopes that you made any difference at all.
It isn’t all humorous selfies and kittens and fun anecdotes,
however. In the same 90-minute span of time, you can go from getting a smooch
on the nose from one cat, to getting punched in the face by another. It wasn’t
his fault though—Poe, the cat who punched me, leaving a scratch on my cheek
that I have to explain when I show up at work and my boss raises his eyebrow
when he sees me.
Poe was being antagonized by another cat, and I just
happened to get in the way.
* * *
When I was still writing for the Northfield News, one of the final stories I wrote prior to my
departure—and one of the only stories I even cared about writing at that
point—was about a dog named Butters.
Butters was having a birthday party—her first birthday
party, and it was a momentous occasion because Butters was very ill.1
She was diagnosed with having polycystic kidneys, and due to her special needs,
after being surrendered to Prairie’s Edge, she was placed in permanent foster
care with Jenny Kelly, the dog fostering coordinator for the organization.
In interviewing Kelly, it was refreshing to speak with
someone who cared about animals as much as I do, and off the record, we started
talking about how frustrating it can be to remain professional in situations
with people who are mistreating an animal, or are surrendering them. I know for
a fact that what she does, and what Jasnoch does, every day, is something I
wouldn’t be able to do.
Jasnoch tells me that even for her, it’s difficult to remain
professional sometimes in what she does.
“I just try and remember that I am here to help the animals,
and I educate people whenever I can,” she said. “Most of the time, when people
are bringing us their pets, they have already given up, and the best we can do
is take the animal, assure them that we will do our best, and hope that they
(the people) learn a lesson.”
She tells me that when working with an animal, she assures
them that whatever bad thing has happened to them, it wasn’t their fault—that
there are no imperfect animals, just imperfect situations.
* * *
Some people think I’m joking when I say things like, “I like
animals more than I like people.” But I’m being completely serious. And when I
told one of my co-workers about that philosophy, and about my experience
visiting with the shelter cats, she was in disbelief at first.
“So if you had the choice between saving a child from being
hurt or an animal, who would you—“
I didn’t even let her finish before I blurted out, “Oh, the
animal for sure.”
Once, I explaining my volunteer experiences to someone who
didn’t know me all that well, and I mentioned my cat allergy. He asked me why I
do it. “Do you have a heart of gold, or something?” he said.
I don’t think this gives me a heart of gold. It doesn’t make
me a better person. It just means that I care—same as Jasnoch does, as well as
the rest of the volunteers and staff at Prairie’s Edge.
It means that when I see paws sticking out from between the
kennel bars, I hold onto them, and I say, “I’m sorry that somebody gave up on
you. You deserve so much better than that.”
For more information on fostering, adoption, volunteering,
or donating, please visit prairiesedgehs.org, or call 507-664-1035.
1-Butters passed away due to her condition about four
months later. At her birthday party, I gave her a small stuffed turtle as a
present. A few days after she passed away, I run into Kelly and her family. She
tells me that Butters loved that turtle I gave her so much that it was cremated
along with her. During my first shift volunteering at the shelter, Jasnoch
gives me a photo of Butters. “We wanted you to have this,” she said.
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